I promised her that I would take exercise and nutrition more seriously going forward, but at the same time I couldn’t make a promise to go to the gym with her.
A few years ago, I decided that I wanted to quit drinking alcohol. I realized I was headed towards an alcohol addiction and wanted to pump the breaks a bit. My girlfriend Sandy and I decided to quit together, and it was a horrible failure. Whenever Sandy said “hey, I think it’s okay to have one drink tonight,” I would agree and have one with her. Whenever one of us got weak, the other one caved in to temptation right along with the other! Because of this, I am very reluctant to get into an exercise program with my new girlfriend Olive. She is very gung ho about this new gym she joined, and wanted me to join with her so we could “take this journey together.” Those were her exact words, and she didn’t like it when I explained that supported her physical fitness goals, but that I had to set my own goals. I promised her that I would take exercise and nutrition more seriously going forward, but at the same time I couldn’t make a promise to go to the gym with her. I explained that if we did that, any time I didn’t want to go to the gym with her it would be an issue, and she would end up feeling like I was holding her back. It took a couple of days, but Olive finally came to understand my point of view, so in return I promised to go to the gym with her once in a while. A good relationship is built on compromise.